Who Stirs Your Pot?

What is the purpose of 'stirring the pot?'

Does misery love company?

Life is interesting, especially when we choose to view it from a place of curiousity . . .

I am truly curious, what is the purpose of 'stirring the pot?' I wonder how many of us walk through life unaware of how our behaviour affects ourselves and others?

Lately, along my path, I seem to be encountering many 'pot stirrers'. I find it very curious that this has been my observation . . . not really clear as to what it is all about . . . what is my contribution to this?

So, when someone you haven't seen for a while or even a complete stranger walks into a room or a conversation and dumps their verbal diahherra, what is the purpose? How do you respond or react? Is it easier to allow yourself to be drawn into the crap that has just been dumped, knowingly or unknowingly? Often the energy level from where this happens, is very high, engaging, animated and full of drama - almost spellbinding and you are in 'it' without even consciously realizing where you have just gone. And, when they leave, as they usually do, they are feeling much lighter and you are now left holding the bag, so to speak -feeling much heavier.

I believe that we are all students and teachers of life, never quite knowing what role we are playing for another at any given time. If we all became a little more curious about our own behaviour and others, and we chose to view behaviour as interesting, especially when it feels like it is pushing our buttons, what effect do you think it might have upon your world?

"Our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions, and not on our circumstances"

Martha Washington

Scripting Your Future

So, what's your story?

What is the story you tell yourself? What is the story you tell the world?

Do you believe your story? Does your story match your life?

We all tell a story, each and everyday, through our words, through our actions - a story about who we are, what we do, where we are going, where we have been . . . a story about us. Interestingly enough though, along the way, our story, the details, the history often gets distorted. Why is it that our memory can be selective?

Did you know, that how you interrupt your story directly reflects the quality of your life? For those who choose to recount or relive the details, the events over and over again, in the first person tend to be less satisfied, less happy with their lives. Those who choose to relive the experiences from a more detached, objective perspective, are known to be able to move on with life more easily and quickly and often lead far happier lives.

S _ _t happens all of us. Do you get stuck in the muck or do you find a way through it? Reliving the details, recanting the story over and over, can be harmful to your health, wealth and well-being. It can literally shorten your lifespan. Why not try telling the story form the 'he said', 'she said' perspective and see what happens?

We all employ a little author's/writer's discretion from time to time do we not? Do we not fudge a few facts from the past and not necessarily consciously? After all, are we not just trying to put forth our identity?

Sometimes looking backwards, can help us to see how far forward we truly have come. We can see the old version, the outdated version.

What does your future look like? Have you written your script?

Envisioning life 5 minutes from now, 5 weeks from now, 5 months from now and 5 years from now . . . thinking about the possibilities . . . what harm can it bring? What if you 'pretended' to be you, you 5 years from now? What if you became that person or that person became you?

What you think about, you bring about . . . Why not create your story and try sticking to it?

. . . are the possibilities not truly endless?

Happiness is not a matter of events, it depends upon the tides of the mind ~ Alice Meynell